My girlfriend and I were just about to have intimate love recently and I noticed she was too dry for sexual activity. I lost my erectile arousal function momentarily when she stopped and told me she couldnt get into it because she was afraid of hurting me because I suffered a back injury that day.
It was getting late she said she had to get some sleep for work. I became a bit moody and frustrated because I did not achieve finish of our sexual activity. I would just like to know if my frustration is due to overactive anxiety or testosterone.
Usually what happens is that the you are focusing more or less on the final goal, which is finishing or pleasing your partner,
and not really focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the sexual encounter,
focus more on the relationship and the sensory experiences that they’re having as opposed to the final goal —
more focusing on the process rather than the product.
So try that just take it slow don’t be all let’s have sexual intercourse that’s how you get nervous as you are just thinking of the act and not the feeling that you are getting.
Sorry Frank but it is not too much testosterone. It is just that you did not get any that night. Stopping in the middle is a pain and we always want to finish what we start. Stopping sexual activity just makes guys focus on whats between our legs and a need for release.
Just learn that over the rest of your life you will have to deal with performance anxiety and go on. Helpful hint: keep some KY jelly in the nightstand and use that the next time you or she are dry. It will help the dryness and not leave you with a pain of frustration.