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I’m very frustrated, also sad, but I am very much in love with my boyfriend.

My partner has not been in very many long term relationships, longest one has been 8 months, for my self I was married for many years then divorced because of a unhealthy relationship, my second relationship lasted almost 5 years.

I met my new man in april of this year. we have great chemistry, laughing, spirituality, cry together, loving, enjoy tantra which he introduced me to. We love the intimacy it brings us.. I could go on, but i need to ask this question…

He told me he masturbated alot, and gave himself many orgasms and none for me, that’s cool, I have too. But I think he is addicted to masturbating, I asked him if he still does and he was open and honest about it. He says not anymore, I truly want to believe him but research from what little i found was that a man gets a high from doing it himself, he has let himself go into me once after 6 months the other times we go a very long time making love because of the tantra we can both stop the ejaculation process (i Know that’s great).

But he can’t ejaculate in me or even when he is still hard or has to pull out because he looses his hardness it becomes limp, Of course i don’t feel like I’m sexually attracted to him but i know i am by the way he touches and loves me, he uses the excuse of being tired or that maybe he’s not use to me i say bull crap! not to him though.

The research also says, a man can get moody or not interested in having sex with their partner they are used to giving them pleasure only,,, I do every thing that turns him on we are both very open, he has taught me to love my body and not to be ashamed because of being used as a sex object all my life. He wants to be the best lover to me and he is, he tells me that no woman has made him so sexually attracted.

We can talk about anything, except for his hand stimulating himself…i asked him once for honesty and told him that it was okay because he was alone so many years, hey I said i understand i have my toy also. please help me to find out if this is truly a problem or not.

They also say that a man will have trouble focusing if they masturbate too much he has all the performance anxiety symptoms but i have no answers to go with, i’m sorry this is so long but i love my relationship and my man of course…but need help. Do you think Viagra would help with his erectile dysfunction? Thanks sheila

I want this relationship to be full of trust, and to be a healthy one…I have come to a point in my life where I have found someone who is compatible and enjoys life the way most people should. I want to be there no matter what and work on our relationship with our selves and on each other. Hes brought so much fullness into my life he is a bonus and I know he feels that way also.

jayden answered