Hi, I don’t really know how to start this, but here goes. My boyfriend and I have not had sex in 7 months. I don’t know what is wrong with him, he has no interest (libido/sexual desire) to make love to me. He was under some stress a few months ago. but things have been going fine for him since then. I can also rule out health problems. He says that he had the same love making drive problem with his past girlfriends which resulted in breakups.
I can understand why. There is only so much I can take. I tried ignoring the making love issue and not talking to him about it anymore. I tried the sexy lingery, I tried everything, nothing happens. And sometimes he gets an erection to make love but says he does not feel like having sex. I am staring to get frustrated I am only 23 and do know if I want to live the rest of my life without making love. Can anybody offer me some advice for his sexual stimulation problem?
Sexual Desire Drive Problem Advice
It seems like he may be seeing someone else. Sexually he seems ok since you said his penis get’s erect when he nears you. There seems to be some underlying problem here. You should talk to him about this issue and find out what is bothering him. It maybe a Performance anxiety problem. I would encourage him to have his testosterone hormonal level evaluated just in case that is the sexual drive problem. Another cause may be that he is pleasuring himself too often and he may avoid sex to save embarrassment.
Make a appointment for both of you to see a doctor or sexual therapist.
He wants to break up with you and is not able to be direct about it. There’s not much point in asking him to confirm what I say if he is this indirect. The most direct he can be is to tell you that “this has led to breakups in the past.” That’s his hint to you, and he may not even know it himself. Time for you to move on. If you want, you could tell him that you are moving on if something doesn’t change in X months. If you go that route, you should also ask him if he will see a counselor with you.
He does not show any interest to make love
I am a 23 years old girl, married for about 2 and a half years now. Ours was a love marriage. My husband is 31 years old. After marriage till one and a half years our sexual life was very active.
It was like almost every day he used to make love to me sometimes even 2-3 times a day, but then suddenly the activity became 2 times a week, then one time a week, then once in 15 days and now it is once in a month or once in 2 months.
He is always busy in his work and even though after coming near me his penis erects he does not show any interest to make love and withdraws himself. I am totally frustrated from within. What should I do? I have tried all the ways but most of the time he does not like to be touched to played to his genitals for sexual stimulation.
He remains tired all the time and also tells me that he does not feel anything and can remain without love making for days, months and years. Let me know the proper solution to this issue. Is giving him a sexual stimulation medicine good?
Maybe he’s gay. or maybe he should try some Libido herbal pills for sexual desire or maybe even Viagra, Cialis, Levitra impotence drugs for extra confidence he can get on the Internet. Maybe both of you should see a sexual therapist.
My first response to this would be to say “Deal with it”. Guys want sex from their girlfriends all the time but it doesn’t always happen, and if a guy said exactly what you just said, he would be attacked by a swarm of old women with bricks in their purses or something.
However, since I know I would (and probably will) get attacked for saying that, try talking to him. Find out what is deep issue is with the subject and try to help him through it. Maybe he has low testosterone levels.