Getting it up without stimulation is a challenge
Hello. I am a 21 year old virgin who is just beginning a sexual relationship with a beautiful girl. We’ve encountered difficulties, and an important question has come to mind: What is a healthy erection?
Most web sites just say that it is being hard enough to penetrate a vagina, but that is nowhere near specific enough. At its peak, how hard should it be? How much should it bend to pressures from different angles? Should it point upwards? Should it require no physical stimulation under otherwise ideal conditions to become this erect?
How quickly should it return to being flaccid, ,limp, weak and hanging once stimulation is broken? I’ve been very worried about how well my penis is functioning, and seeing answers to these questions would help a lad figure out my sexual performance inhibition and erectile dysfunction difficulties.
Semi-erection problems can bring down self-esteem and can impact sexual desire drive in men. Ask you doctor about Viagra for weak, falls down, hard rock and long period drive. OTC penile enhancement products are good for bigger longer penis. Natural sexual dysfunction products can be beneficial treatments. Or, a new method Without pills therapy.
Short and weak
I am 38yrs old my penis to short and weak and fail down in few second, I want long my peni with hard rock and long period drive to my wife.
Bent penis is a sign of peyronie’s disease. With all the other problems you should see a Medical doctor as soon as possible.
Sensate focus technique
thank you so much for replying. You have no idea how good it is to talk to someone about this. I’m actually in Japan right now on a foreign exchange, and it’s pretty lonely to be so isolated with a problem like this. My girlfriend is Japanese, and part of the problem is that she is a virgin and has a very tight vagina. Sometimes, it’s tough just to get a finger in there even when she is relaxed. This, I think, has been part of the problem. Fortunately, she’s loosening up.
So I tried the wallet trick, and it was a piece of cake, even when I loaded my wallet with change. As I expected, I lost the erection in about 10-15 seconds, but it held it up easily even with lots of change in it.
When I’m with this girl, she can get me hard and make me orgasm with oral sex and hand jobs. When we start towards real sex, I lose it. It starts when I go to get the condom. Even when I have practiced by myself, the distraction of doing this always makes me soft and lose my erections. So I get it back and get the condom on, but I just can’t get completely hard in it.
I’ve tried getting used to condoms by putting them on and wearing them when I’m by myself, and I’ve had mixed results (I still don’t think I get quite as hard in them). But I can’t do this much, because Japanese condoms are too small and I need to import American ones, which limits my supply.
This has been going on for a couple of months now, and it’s becoming something that haunts me. Sometimes I’m relieved when we don’t try to have sex. I’m really thinking this is psychological now, and I would like to try the sensate focus technique.
Loose tight erections
I am 26 year old and i got problem that whenever my penis erected then semen droplets starts to come out and soon penis loose its tight erection. kindly help me how to cope with this problem. Whenever i masturbate i ejaculate quickly.
Loosing your focus
The semen droplets are precum and is normal. It cleans out your pee tract before the ejaculation semen fluid. If you loose your tight erection you are loosing your focus. At your age ejaculation quickly is normal, as you get older that won’t be a problem. But, you can overcome that with the stop start method, the squeeze method and drugs.
Low testosterone level
It seems all your parts work OK. You can have orgasm with semen ejaculation fluid and you have morning penis erections. But, to what degree, that may be the question. If you are masturbating often it might be a good idea to lay off that for a week or two, to build up your testosterone production. You may have a low testosterone level. A urologist doctor can run a blood test on you for that. Or, In home testing can be done.
Fully erect to limp
Thanks for the quick reply. Suffice to say, we are not achieving penetration. I’m not sure how many factors play a big role in this, but I’m sure that if I had a naturally rock-hard erection, everything would be fine.
Here’s are the main points: I can go from fully erect to limp but still large in about 10 seconds, sometimes less. Getting it fully erect without physical stimulation is a challenge, and I usually lose the erection without it. By gently turning my wrists when I grip my erect penis, I can get it to easily bend 20-30 degrees, especially if I turn it towards me. However, it will not bend to direct pressure from above (which I also apply very lightly, don’t worry).
Standing up, it points to somewhere between 2 and 3 o’clock. I have not tried the wallet trick, but it would be difficult because I would be halting stimulation and would go soft quickly. I can achieve orgasm just fine, and my semen seems healthy. However, I only have morning erections once in a blue moon, and they are never very strong or long lived. I would like to believe that my trouble is just psychological anxiety, but I worry about it being physical.
actually i have been doing masturbation from past 8 yrs. coz of which m feeling sexual weaknesses like bent of my penis downwards which was not earlier,loosen in testes , loosen of foreskin of penis , sperm in urine etc etc……….plz help……… me wt should i do whether my penis will b normal again…i m very confused plzzzzz……… help
Since your girlfriend is so tight, you can use a condom compatible lubricant for achieving easy vagina penetration.
Here’s a news article that might help:
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Silicone-based lubricants are commonly recommended for intercourse because they do not easily dry out and they are condom latex-safe.
You know I use to have that same problem, trying to reach for the condom real fast before I lose my erection. I have the same focusing problem and keep losing my erection before penetration or shortly thereafter… Although, once I started using Viagra it kept my erection hard for a long time. I had plenty of time to put the condom on and time for extra foreplay. Which my girlfriend really liked.
Have you tried Viagra, Cialis, Levitra or sexual health products or something similar? It might be a good idea to ask a Urologist doctor.