I'm in a new romantic relationship with a guy who, the first time we made love everything was
fine. Ever since then, it seems the only time he can't be ready to perform it's via my
stimulation to him. So if he can maintain his readiness via that way, why not when he is trys to go all the way when pleasing me.
This is really bothering me. He will be ready and as soon as he starts going all the way,
maybe 20 seconds, he loses it.
I keep thinking he doesn't enjoy me, how can I not think this. He swears he does
very much enjoy me, that its him and that it will get better. I don't know what to
believe.
Vannessa- Be explicit. Tell him how much your want to feel when he first starts his love making
and how good it feels when you put your hand on sensual areas of his body.
Encourage him to do what you like.
I think this will keep his mind on the act focused better.
Encourage him to tell you when he is getting close to orgasm. Good luck
Reply by: MSH
Men's Performance Anxiety Problems, Disorder Issues & Symptoms
Male performance anxiety disorder symptoms can happen whereby when you're actually in the course of making love,
you lose it after you are ready.
Usually what happens is that the person is focusing more or less on the final goal, which is orgasm or pleasing the partner
with an orgasm, and not really focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the sexual encounter, focus more on the
relationship
and the sensory experiences that they're having as opposed to the final goal --
more focusing on the process rather than the product.
He might ask his doctor if Viagra or similar impotence treatment is for him. Viagra will help his readiness to last up to 4hours before satisfaction. And, will give him more self confidence in himself.
If he masturbates often he should cut down.
Tip: If he is the sensitive type, keep encouraging him during love making.
Women should show they are "into it" during love making.
That is most stimulating to men, not what the women's magazines say about how to please a man.
