May I suggest that you stop using Viagra, especially if you are taking it without the authorization of a doctor. Be honest with your partner and tell her what you have stated on this forum - that you have been taking Viagra impotence treatment to avoid the problems of not getting a hard erection. That you don't want dependence on Viagra, and that you want very much for your erections to be "natural". Tell her that you hope she understands and will help you get off Viagra dependency.

Just telling her your Viagra dependence problems will help to relieve the anxiety that you have and help you to mentally relax.

May I suggest that you do not masturbate, if you normally do, for two weeks. And no intercourse for a week or two. Just let your libido and desire for sex build up. Then enjoy foreplay with your partner. Bring her to a wonderful orgasm by stimulating her clitoris. Then have sexual intercourse, and please do so by practicing SAFE SEX by using a condom. Try not to be anxious, but just relax and you will have a much better chance of having a rock hard erection. If by chance you do not attain a hard erection, then let her stimulate your penis without a condom. To help increase the sensitivity and reduce friction, she can apply a few drops of a lubricant to your penis (Wet Platinum is best in my opinion).

Just relax, enjoy letting the power of her body arouse and excite you. Be patient with yourself and I believe in time you will be amazed that your lovin' is back to being natural and wonderful again. I wish you the best.