Did You Know... Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction affecting men. Ejaculatory disorders effects relationships, and can contribute to lack of self-confidence, embarrassment, and trauma. To find out more, Click Here! |
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Did You Know... Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction affecting men. Ejaculatory disorders effects relationships, and can contribute to lack of self-confidence, embarrassment, and trauma. To find out more, Click Here! |
Posted by RichT:
In Reply to: Re: Re: Re: premature ejaculation control posted by Out Of Options:
Hello to Both of You,
Thank you very much for taking the time to answer the questions I raised. That in itself tells me you both love and care for each other a great deal. You have tried to solve the PE problem in a number of ways but with no success. You have tried, and that is the important thing.
Now I feel more comfortable telling you about my wife and I, and how we have dealt with PE. Much like you we engage in foreplay as do most couples. For us foreplay will last from 30 minutes to 2 hours with the average being around 1-1/2 hours. We just relax and enjoy sexually pleasuring each other. There are the initial hugs, and holding my wife's breasts. Sometimes she will begin to "massage" my already erect penis with her hands, and other times I will begin to kiss and suck on her breasts. We alternate back and forth, and yes sometimes I will suck on her breasts at the same time she pleasures my penis with her hands. However, we both find that to really concentrate on enjoying giving and receiving pleasure it is best that one person just lay back and relax and "center in" on the pleasure being received while the other person is enjoying stimulating the other. To both give and receive plesure at the same time just does not enable to enjoy it as much.
As we become more aroused we also orally stimulate each other. For my wife it will take her from a minimum of 10 minutes, usually 20-30 minutes and sometimes as long as 45 minutes to be aroused to the point of having an orgasm. Sometimes I will also stimulate her G-spot at the same time that I am orally stimulating her clitoris. Time does not matter to us as I enjoy stimulating her as much as she enjoys receiving the pleasure. It's a way for each of us to share our love with each other. My wife can do amazing things with those fingers of hers and especially her tongue. The sensations she can bring to my penis are AWESOME. Before we did some exercises together to try and help my PE problem she would have to be extremely careful not to stimulate my penis to much or for too long. Now over say 20 minutes of stimulating my penis she usually only has to stop once or twice so that I don't go over that point of no return.
I should also mention here that we do use a lubricant during our foreplay if either of us are a bit dry. Our favorite lubricant is Wet Platinum. It is very slippery and stays slippery for a very long time. Also it is tasteless.
After my wife has had an orgasm and sexual relese, then it is time for both of us to enjoy intercourse together. Being my wife has had an orgasm, I don't have to be concerned about lasting long enough dduring intercourse so that she can have an orgsm. I can just enjoy the incredible pleasure of having my penis inside of her wonderful exciting vagina. My wife likewise, can just focus on the pleasure she is giving to me. She enjoys giving my penis a "hug" now and then by tightening her PC muscle. It is a great sensation for my penis. For many years I'd be lucky to last 1 minute before ejaculating. Since the exercises and I'm sure age is a factor I will last for as long as 2 minutes, which for us is wonderful. My wife enjoys knowing that her vagina can excite me to incredible heights of pleasure. The fact that I do not last very long really has never been a concern of hers. Intercourse is just the final culmination of 1-2 hours of incredible pleasure. For my wife it give her a great amount of satisfaction to know that she can pleasure/excite me so much and so fast. She knows I am hers and hers alone. I often kid her that she is the only Viagra I will ever need. To which she just smiles with that very knowing smile of "I gottcha".
I wanted you to know how we have dealt with PE and in a way used it to our advantage during our lovin'. By the time my wife has had an orgasm and we then have intercourse for a minute or two she is physically exhausted, and so am I. Then it is nice to just lay very close to each other and rest/sleep for awhile. Neither of us has a feeling of frustration, just of total satisfaction.
I'll sign off for now so that this much is accepted through the forum.
