Did You Know... Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction affecting men. Ejaculatory disorders effects relationships, and can contribute to lack of self-confidence, embarrassment, and trauma. To find out more, Click Here! |
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Did You Know... Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction affecting men. Ejaculatory disorders effects relationships, and can contribute to lack of self-confidence, embarrassment, and trauma. To find out more, Click Here! |
Posted by RichT:
In Reply to: Re: Re: Re: premature ejaculation control posted by Out Of Options:
First my apology for the typos. I like this forum, but it is very difficult to proof ones message.
Let me feed back to you my understanding of what you both has said in your posts.
First to Mrs. - You tried to have intercourse frequently in hopes that your husband would then last longer and get better control of when he ejaculated. That unfortunately did not work. You became very frustrated with intercourse being so very short. You wanted and still want it to last a long time. You obviously enjoy having your husband's penis inside of your vagina. It obviously feels very good to you. Besides intercourse being so very short, your relationship is "perfect". That's SUPER!. However, I also know the importance of sexual love in a relationship. It IS very important. I can tell it in my wife and in my self after our lovin'. We are much more "relaxed" with each other then. That sexual tension is gone and that wonderful feeling of the love we have is so very fresh.
"But, I desire more and I just don't have the patience any more!" - For you there is that feeling of not being totally sexually fulfilled. And that leads to the frustration that you have. The BIG question is - how to change that?
Now to Mr. - You to have tried in many ways to solve your PE problem. More frequent intercourse, masturbate shortly before your lovin', exercises, creams, and even have talked with your doctors. You have REALLY tried, and your wife should be very proud of you, that you have tried very hard to solve the problem so that she can have the sexual fulfillment that she wants and needs.
Intercourse "lasts about 1 or on a good day 2 minutes." You have a very sensitive penis, and the vagina of your wife obviously stimulates you penis to incredible sexual feelings of pleasure. In my opinion it is far FAR better that your penis is so very sensitive and that your wife's vagina excites you so, than to have intercourse for an hour or more and never ejaculate. Now THAT is FRUSTRATION! Frustration for the wife feeling that she is unable to please her man, and for the fellow frustration that he isn't even man enough to ejaculate. I can not think of anything that would be more frustrating.
You have had PE for a long time and there has not been any change in the length of time before you ejaculated during intercourse.
I asked the question about being circumcised/uncircumcised, because from what I have read, an uncircumcised male is more sensitive than an uncircumcised male. Obviously for you you are still VERY sensitive. Remember a LOT of sex is from our brain, and you have a hot brain. Your eyes see your wife and your brain says "I WANT her", which in turns gets your penis all excited.
"Our four play is as long as she let it go on usually about 15 to 20 minutes or usually until she cums unless she stopped me." - That is a most interesting statement in my opinion. To me at least, your foreplay is fairly short. There is also this puzzling issue of "as long as she let it go on", unless she stopped me." - My good lady, why do you sometimes stop the foreplay before you have had an orgasm. To me that would be incredibly frustrating for you. Now with no orgasm, you have been aroused, and now you have intercourse for 1 minute and you still have that SEXUAL DESIRE. If you are aware of the following then please forgive a "repeat" - For the majority of women to have an orgasm, they need to have their clitoris manually/orally stimulated in order to have an orgasm. Makes sense because it is your clitoris that has the highest concentration of nerve endings and is thus most sensitive to stimulation. Intercourse just is NOT going to do it for the majority of women.
Is there a reason you used sex toys (vibrators) to stimulate your wife? To the good lady - How long does it normally take for you to have an orgasm during foreplay? To I detect a bit of frustration in yourself in not achieving an orgasm as quickly as you think you should? Am I close?
Read over my previous post and this one. Answer the questions I have raised if you would please, and comment as you wish. Then I will try to give you a few thoughts on some things you may wish to try. Things to try so that you can enjoy a longer period of intercourse together, AND equally important in my opinion some things on changing your whole feeling and attitude about your lovin'.
