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Well, as time went on, we became good friends. She talked to me more than Jake half the time. I noticed something a little weird though. Like she'd always sit next to me. close to me, touching me not sexually but just like grabbing my arms leaning on me and what not. I almost forgot to add this in there, "SHE IS BEAUTIFUL" she could be a model if she wanted or pose for playboy. I didn't think she could possibly like me, so I though that's just how she was friends.
Then, She moved 2 hours away but we stayed in touch alot. I even drove up there on weekends to hang out. it started to get a little close and all of sudden bam, she tells me she has feelings for me but she doesn't know what to do cuz she still going out with Jake. I'm not gonna lie at this point I was in love with her. Ok, so We talked on the phone for hours at night, hours online, visits on the weekends.
It started to escalade, we would sleep in the same bed and hold each other through the night.
She then breaks up with Jake and tells me that she still feels the same way about me and asks me what I think, I told her how I liked her too. And, that I didn't want to be just a rebound. So I told her to give it a few weeks single to see how she truly feels.
Jake finds out and tells me that he doesn't care if I date her and that he doesn't even like her like that anymore.
Then one night we all hang out together which was awkward. and I think that we are about to have a relationship. Her and Jake are talking together again. I think no biggie. By the end of the night, she was sitting on his lap. This really hurt me, then I saw them kiss, that killed me, then they sliped away into a room together and slept together now I'm dead.
The next day she wouldn't even look at me at my house she went home. and I called her. I didn't tell her how I felt or anything, and she didn't act like anything happend, she was too normal to me.
Well, a week later she starts dating Jake again. Now she's kind of mean to me, but I never did anything to her. But she still acts like we are friends and that we never had anything going on together.
I feel like I'm trapped in hell, I never felt this way. She is my first love I think. Her loving feeling seemed strong before. Is it possible for someone to loose feelings just like that?
What should I do? Should I still be friends with her?
But mostly, can people be madly in love one day and the next day have nothing?
She told me before that
rebound relationships don't sit in the bottom of your heart. Well I wanna know how I fell so far behind from the bottom of her heart to the back of her mind?
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Your Question: Is it possible for someone to loose feelings just like that?
Answer: It seems she never had those feelings and was using you because she was missing the attention that Jake wasn't giving her anymore. Sometimes a rebounder will not necessarily know they're using you.
Your Questions: What should I do? Should I still be friends with her?
Answer: You can still be friendly to her but, I would not give her a second chance.
Your Question: Can people be madly in love one day and the next day have nothing?
Answer: She was not madly in love with you. She was substituting you for Jake. You were a temporary solution to her problem.
Your question: Well I wanna know how I fell so far behind from the bottom of her heart to the back of her mind?
Answer: It has absolutely nothing to do with you. She is the one who has the issues. She took advantage of the situation as it happened.
Chalk it up as a lesson learned. Now she's Jake's problem cause, she know's she can get any man she wants.
Conclusion:
If you’re looking to be the rebound for someone coming out of a long relationship, you could be playing with fire. It really depends on your needs and desires. Ask yourself if it's worth the risk and you’re willing to spend your time with this person to only have them up and leave.
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