It's been a Long time.Going through the counseling!

Posted by swampy:
In Reply to: Re: It's been a Long time. posted by RichT:
Thanks for that, we had a talk today and going through the counceling bit is a no go I'm afraid. The thing is though my future is here, apart from sexually we couldn't be closer. We both have our interests and we share and support each other on them. I firmly believe it is not a case of lack of love or any form of drifting apart. We are as close mentally as we were when we first were married, it is simply the physical side of things that has changed, and that really only since the affair. I have blamed myself so many times over it in the past but do not hold any grudge. It was as they say only just one of those things. Howevr it seems to have been the trigger for what has happened since. I think that is one of the reasons she doesn't want to talk to others about this problem as she did get very hurt at the time. I really don't want to rake over those coals again, not because it in any way upsets me but because it seems to upset her. Every so often she will say sorry for what happened and I assure her it's ok, but then it goes back to the status quo. I guess I just want to remember what it is like to hold someone again. Her and my son are the most important things in my life, always have been, and as far as I can see always will be. I definately believe she feels the same but that wall just doesn't seem to go away. As two people go we couldn't be closer, as lovers we couldn't be further apart. I don't want to do anything that will break that bond, but I feel I don't want to wait any more. Maybe it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. Thank you for your reply , it's been a help just to be able to say this to someone else.

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