Posted by RichT:
In Reply to: boyfriend has lost interest but still masterbates nightly. posted by Ann:
Ann,
Honestly, from your post it doesn't seem he really wants to help himself or seek help from professionls. This masturbating EVERY night is puzzling. It almost seems he just enjoys pleasuring himself and doesn't enjoy sexual love from a woman. His wife divorced him after a short time for the same reason. Sure doesn't sound like he has any hope of changing or any desire to change. It seems he is happy with himself. Sure, masturbating EVERY night will affect his performance. He will not have the desire/libido to want to sexually love you.
You "enjoy" him, but I didn't see the word love any place in your post.
Ann, in my opinion don't waste any more of your precious time/life with him. End the relationship in a pleasant manner, but be firm and say "this is it. PERIOD!" and mean it. Look for someone that is a male and enjoys the company, pleasure and love from a woman. Someone you can develop of loving relaionship with. A fellow who will love you and that you love in return.
I wish you the very best.
