Posted by RichT:
In Reply to: Any Advice? My husband can't keep erection and... posted by Jennifer:
Hello Jennifer,
I commend you for trying to have your husband see a doctor and also a counselor. That is exactly what I would have recommended. It is so difficult and frustrating for you I am sure when he refuses to seek help.
Let me continue - "he thinks french kissing is "ick" - I can't comprehend a guy saying that. My wife and I enjoyed French kissing way, way back when we first started going together. We have been married 40 years, and last night during our lovin' we were back to French kissing as always. For us it is enjoyable, sensuous and arousing. We love it and so should any other hetrosexual human.
"refuses to perform oral sex on me." - Unbelievable. It is so very enjoyable for me to orally stimulate my wife's clitoris. To get her highly aroused and have an orgasm. It may be routine, but it is a fantastic way for her to "feel" my love for her. I cannot imagine a male not wishing to pleasure his mate in such a wonderful way.
Back to your husband getting an erection, but not hard enough for intercourse. For that reason alone he really does need to see a doctor. Have you ever asked him if he masturbates (99% of guys do and the others are lying as they say)? If he does, is there some way you can ask him if his penis gets really hard then?
"I sometimes fear he may be homesexual or bisexual --" - I hope not, however from your post it would seem that is a possibility.
Jennifer, even if your huwband will not seek professional help, YOU need to in my opinion. Please do seek the advice and counsel of a marriage counselor and/or sex therapist. The counselor will not tell you what to do, but will guide you so that you can make the best decision for yourself and your relationship. It will take a session a week for perhaps 2 months for you to work through things. By the way, many health policies will pay for a portion of the counseling fees.
Lovin' isn't all there is to marriage, but it IS a VERY important part of marriage. It is such a wonderful way for two people to express in a sexual way the love they have for each other.
I truly wish you the very best.
