Unable to orgasm (climax) or ejaculate (cum) – personal experience true story.
How male sexual orgasms (climax) work!
First, orgasm (climax) is a total body response, not just a pelvic event. Brain wave patterns show distinct changes during orgasm, and muscles in many different areas of the body contract during this phase of sexual response. Some people experience the involuntary contraction of facial muscles resulting in what looks like a grimace or an expression of discomfort or displeasure, but it is actually an indication of high sexual arousal during copulation or masturbation.
The most characteristic physical difference of orgasm is the sensation produced by the simultaneous rhythmic contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (pc muscle). Along with contractions of the anal sphincter, rectum and perineum, the uterus and outer third of the vagina (the orgasmic platform) for women, and the ejaculatory ducts and muscles around the penis for men, this constitutes the reflex of orgasm . The first few contractions are intense and close together, occurring at about 0.8-second intervals. As orgasm continues, the contractions diminish in intensity and duration and occur at less frequent intervals.
Is there a difference between orgasm (climax) and ejaculation (cum)?
It’s an interesting question. We are so accustomed to assuming that the two go together – and being satisfied with this situation – that most men never seek to explore the possibility that they may not be as inextricably linked as we generally assume. However, as we shall see, there may actually be some basis to the idea that a man can experience multiple orgasms (climaxes).
An orgasm cannot be stopped once it has started, for it is an involuntary process of muscular contraction and release of tension. But a man can control how quickly he reaches orgasm (climax) in a variety of ways. Most obviously, he can increase the pressure on his penis by making deeper or harder thrusts during copulation/intercourse, or by more vigorous hand movements during masturbation, or by having his partner massage his prostate through the perineum or through the internal wall of the rectum via a finger inserted through the anus. Another way is to contract the internal muscles which run through from his pelvic bone to his penis, a movement which will both speed up orgasm and make it more intense. In men, learning to contract and therefore strengthen these very same muscles will result in much more intense orgasms and a much more powerful ejaculation of semen fluid (cum).
Once the level of stimulation has reached such a point that the final phase of sexual copulation arousal is initiated, your body prepares itself for the great climax in all kinds of ways. Blood pressure goes up, your heart rate rises, your breathing becomes deeper and heavier, and involuntary contractions of muscles throughout your body may occur, a phenomenon which could be interpreted as a drive to thrust deeper into your partner’s body, thereby increasing the likelihood that your semen will be deposited successfully inside her. A man may wrap his arms involuntarily around his partner and hold on tightly, another reflex which I think derives from our animal ancestry – the last thing you want is your partner escaping at the moment of ejaculation, after all the effort you put into getting your semen inside her! I know this doesn’t sound very romantic, but we can’t entirely escape the fact that copulation evolved for reproduction, and much of this historical legacy still determines how we do it, even when we do it for pleasure.
Immediately prior to the orgasm itself, cum seminal fluid builds up in the bulb of the prostate gland. This produces that familiar sense of impending ejaculation – one of the finest moments of being a man. Then, at the moment of orgasm, the testicles (balls) are drawn up close to the body, the urinary tract to the bladder closes so that semen has to find its way out of the body through the penis, rather than being passed back into the bladder, and the series of muscular contractions which actually constitutes the orgasm takes place. These copulation contractions occur in the muscles at the base of the penis, the muscles of the penis shaft, around the anal sphincter, the pubococcygus muscle and the muscles of the rectum – they contract about eight times, maybe slightly more or less, at eight-tenths of a second intervals, and as they do so the seminal fluid containing sperm is expelled. These contractions may lead to semen (cum) shooting out or just dribbling, depending on the condition of the muscles, how long it is since you last ejaculated, and the volume of cum fluid which has accumulated during the earlier phases of your sexual arousal.
Orgasms (climax), however, do vary. They aren’t all earth-shattering events! There are many reasons why they aren’t all as good as each other, of course. Perhaps one of the main reasons is that they do involve the whole body, and therefore simple things like levels of tiredness, fatigue, relaxation and stress will all have an impact on the intensity of the experience. Obviously, how aroused or randy you are feeling will also have an impact on your level of excitement and the intensity of the sensations during sex. One indicator of the intensity of a person’s orgasm (climax) is the degree to which their facial muscles undergo contortions or the loudness of their involuntary cries at the moment they come.